As a photographer who works for clients all over the world, let alone country, my husband can officially call himself a Road Warrior. Actually, that’s been the case for a long time, but it’s taken me a while to wrap my brain around (and embrace) the fact that I’m the wife to such a warrior. Mainly because when he’s gone, I’ve still got to keep up with my busy schedule, the kids’ schedules all on my own. It was always easier to take the ostrich-head-in-the-sand approach when he was traveling vs. facing it head on and coming up with a routine to support it. But as his travel has increased, and as the boys get older and bigger, I’ve learned to accept it and come up with some strategies to get us through it sane when all’s said and done.
In addition to coming up with my own ways to deal with being a temporary single parent at times, I also look to other couples/individuals in similar situations. There’s a lot I can learn and let’s be honest, it also helps to know I’m not the only one out there doing it. Far from it.
One such example is my friend, Peter Shankman, whose daughter is almost a year, and whose wife is also an incredibly successful professional (at an agency, no less). Peter is either flying on planes for work, or jumping out of them for fun. I think the term Road Warrior has his photo next to the definition when you look it up.
So I recently asked Peter and his lovely wife, Kira, how they keep their lives sane while both growing careers , their mileage counts and raising a beautiful daughter. Here’s what they had to say:
Photo from: facebook.com/PeterShankman
CM: How often do you, Peter and Kira, travel for work alone while the other stays home?
PS: I travel constantly. When Kira travels (infrequently) I don’t.
CM: How often do you guys travel together for fun as a family?
PS: We haven’t yet. First trip planned for this summer.
CM: What is a typical routine when you’re all home together in the evening?
PS: We try and cook/eat together several times a week when I’m home. It’s wonderful, and I really value the time. We put our devices away and enjoy each other. <CM note- LOVE this…and we do the same. Put the phone away when the family is together>
CM: What is the routine when Peter is traveling and you’re home alone with Jessa, Kira?
PS: Kira tends to order in. 🙂 <CM note- Guilty of the same!>
CM: What are the best resources (can be from a nanny to a teething ring!) you’ve come across to get through when you’re on single parent duty?
PS; Google. 🙂 Also “Violet” – a doll that learns Jessa’s name. She’ll play with it forever.
CM: What is the most difficult part when you’re home alone? What’s the nicest part when you’re home alone?
PS: When I’m home alone, I love just playing with her. Not worried that my wife is going to say “she just ate, don’t spin her around,” etc. I just have fun with her.
CM: What advice do you have for other working parents who are often on single-duty with a business traveling spouse?
PS: FaceTime and Skype. Make sure the kid sees you at least once a day. <CM note- great tip- Facetime is a must!>
CM: Have you made any major changes, either Peter or Kira, in your work schedules since Jessa arrived?
PS: I rarely go out at night anymore during the week – But to be honest, that’s my choice. When I’m home, I like being home with my family.
CM: Do you plan to make any changes in the future as Jessa gets older?
PS: We’ll probably be able to stop buying diapers and formula. 🙂
CM: Thank you, Peter!